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I'm just gonna blurt it out - I am really sick to death of political correctness (is it even politically correct to say politically correct anymore??)
I mean for god's sake apparently we're not even allowed to say Baa Baa BLACK sheep anymore it's supposed to be 'coloured' sheep. Forgive me for saying so but that's just bullshit and also I'm pretty sure we went through a whole period of history where 'coloured' was an insulting term for black people so how flipping confusing is that. There really are black sheep people get over it - it's not racism.
There are so many more examples like this one but the one that's really got my blood boiling lately is the party circuit. There are so many rules it's out of control.
If your kid is school age and you want to hand out party invites at school you are 'advised' to invite the whole class. When I was at school people invited who they wanted to their birthday party and everyone else had to put their big kid panties on and get over it. In real life you can't be friends with everyone - not everyone will like you either and that's OK.
Once you've negotiated that minefield and you've got 40 kids at your house there's the party games. To be specific pass-the-parcel. Nowadays the host (ie a frantic mum half an hour before the party) is expected to wrap enough layers for everyone to get a chance to unwrap one. Then this farce is strictly controlled by some seriously excellent timing on the stereo by a very stressed out dad. Each layer must also have a prize in it. C'mon people life isn't fair, this is the time we are supposed to be teaching our kids about sportsmanship - It's not whether you win or lose it's how you play the game etc etc
It's everywhere I turn. At my nephew's junior footy - no score keeping in case someone gets upset at losing. Easter Bonnet parade no prize for best hat - just a pat on the back for participating.
I don't want any kids to feel left out or excluded or made to feel inferior - absolutely not. What I want is for them to be educated honestly. I want them to learn that in life there are winners and losers. I want them to understand you don't always get absolutely everything that everyone else does. When they succeed or do well I want them to be able to revel in that accomplishment. I want them to be practised in the art of being both a good winner and a good loser. I want them to lose or fail and feel disappointed and know how to pick themselves up and try again.
What do you think - am I being too tough? Should we continue to protect our children from reality? Do you do the 'everyone's a winner' version of pass the parcel or are you old school like me?